Okay - I’ll lay the ground work…
Started out as a daughter, sister and all the other family roles that come with having more than one person in the extended family like niece, granddaughter and cousin. I soon became friend and neighbor, school mate, student and then new titles became more confusing. I became me. I don’t remember my voice but I do remember that I had an attitude of kind, giving, playful and nurturing before the funny, feisty, sassy, snotty teen years showed up which then introduced me to my new titles of girlfriend, babysitter and employee. I knew at an early age that I wanted the next two titles and I wanted them bad. Wife and mother!
All the other titles stuck and will be with me forever - unconditionally, but the title of Wife and Mother are the two most desirable titles by many women and yet the two that are chosen many times without a true understanding of what they are and the hard work it takes to be a good wife and mother. All of the titles I held prior to these two were given to me simply because I was born or because I had some sort of societal need to learn and/or make a living.
Becoming a wife at 18 years old was something that felt natural and if it weren’t for my faith (which I hadn’t fully developed at that young age) I would have quit soon after starting. If it weren’t for my faith, I would have been a horrible mother and possibly made some childish decision that might have reflected my age of 19. But I chose these two roles without truly understanding at the time that they are the most difficult two roles to learn, refine and perfect and yet they are the two that will become my legacy. I guess you could say that the phrase “ignorance is bliss” was inspired by someone just like me.
So here I am. After 46 years I have possessed all of the titles listed above and yet I can still ask - who am I - really?
